How did I become so judgemental

Every time I meet new people I find I am talking to them but when it is my turn to listen, instead I am totally judging them. I am always sizing other moms up. Mostly I am thinking of why we probably would never make it as best friends. Let me give you some examples. I have been meeting new moms at Rylans school and soccer and at the park quite often. I enjoy talking to them in the moment but I always walk away thinking that we are just too different. I feel kind of like I am shopping for a friend and my time is not equal to the people I meet if that makes any sense. I talk to moms and I either feel like they are way more snobby than I am
 with too many things like stores they shop at or the things that they "must" purchase or I can feel that if I mention the word coupon to them they will simply cringe. Don't get me wrong I am a snob when it comes to certain things too for example my hairspray I love a hairspray and I don't really have a problem with spending 18.00 on it because I love it. I am also a snob for my bra and underwear I will only get them at Victoria Secret. Other than those things (I'm sure there are a few more that I just can't think of) I am pretty much down for whatever. I am not too good to eat at a buffet or to go to a biker bar or to buy my clothes at a resale shop or TJMaxx type store. I am however too good to eat gas station food, you never know who touched that stuff or how long it has been in there, for all you know it fell out of the turn thing and onto the floor so Joe Blow picked it back up and put it in again. I will never feel like all of my sons clothes need to come from a little boutique (or any of them for that matter). What I am saying is I hear these moms talking about their spending habits and I think I could not make it in their BMW world, I am a VW (wants to be a Nissan girl again soon lol) kind of girl and I really don't think that will ever change. I told Rhett today I just don't think that even if we made a ton of money I could just buy crazy overpriced stuff. I am just a tight ass like that. Then there are moms on the other side of the spectrum that I meet that I love to talk to because they have the best tree hugging ideas ever on subjects such as saving energy or just going green in general. But during our conversations once again I find myself judging and thinking well we could never be friends because she doesn't ever wear makeup and she probably frowns upon it because it is bad for the environment and what not.(I would love if this said tree hugger was my childs doctor as you would already know if you read my first blog) She also looks like she hand made everything she and her kids are wearing, hey I am not against that and I have seen some darn cute kids clothes but there comes a point when you suck at sewing that someone should say hey I love your kids whatever but if you want I could show you a better way to buy shirts that are less expensive than making your own. Or if they were really hateful they could say something like hey you suck at sewing so maybe you could find another hobby to try. I imagine that they go to restaurants and ask for the old oil to turn into (however these crazy people do it) motor oil or gas or whatever they do with it, and hey I am not the one to tell someone not to save a penny by getting free oil but that is again "just not me". The other day I met someone who I actually thought hey she is pretty (looks like she keeps herself up, that is important to me in a friend because I don't ever want it to rub off on me the whole "I am just being comfortable" thing) she feeds her kids healthy food and she also is interested in doing fun free kids activities... we could be friends I think. I have too many prerequisites in a friend maybe you need to be able to drink and have a good time (and understand I can be very "fun" when drinking, I say "fun" because I am a loud over the top kind of person sometimes when I am sober so when I get a buzz if you don't like to have a good time then you should probably stay home because I am hilarious when drinking...) but you can't drink and party too much I still want to know you can have a good time and be a good person without getting wasted. You should probably be a mom because most of the things I want to do involve my son. If you are a mom your kids can't be brats and you can't be a hateful b.... either to them yelling all the time because I can not handle either one of those things. I'd like to find a friend who enjoys doing the "housewife" type thing so I can have good conversation about cooking, cleaning, DIY projects, saving money, gardening, you get the idea, now you don't necessarily need to have all of those interests but a couple would be nice to make the conversation vary. I have a few best friends who meet all of these categories (except Courtney she doesn't have kids but she has pets and they aren't brats so that is as close as it gets) Janette and Shelly were both dropped into my lap but both live so far away. I would love to find another mom with a kid in the same school as Rylan so that field trips wouldn't be so awkward. I actually spotted one mom that I thought we could def. be friends but she was so inappropriate I felt uncomfortable and that is hard to do. I don't want to elaborate JUST IN CASE lol Another thing that is so hard is that everyone I meet seems to be 5-10+ years older than me and I feel like they are going through different life stuff than I am. I still feel so young and even at 27 I feel like when other moms start sentences with "When I turned 30 (or 40) blank blank blank blank happened" all I can think about is I wonder how they would feel if they knew that I am not 30 yet and then it makes me wonder do I look that old? Or do they just not care and I am the only one who is worrying that age is a factor in our friendship? I never thought about it until I acquired a new friend who is a good bit older than I am and for a long time I always heard comments about our age and I guess I just never thought about it because I would party down with granny if she was ready. It is so hard for me to hear what other moms are saying sometimes because I just keep thinking about how different we are. Maybe I am the weird one? I also find moms who stay at home and want to make everything "easy" and I want to make everything "fun" so instead of juice boxes for the Halloween party I want to have punch... so what if some kids spill or so what if that means we need a punch bowl and a ladle? I'll bring it, I mean you can have a juice box any day why would you want to have that for a party? Plus what else are you doing? Quit being lazy and let loose a little bit. Anyway this is a little bit of my rant on other moms..... I will be so glad when Janette moves home next month because as Rhett said I am gonna be burning up the roads!

Anyway to close this post I guess my final thought will be "is it just me?" or is everyone shopping for their friends? Too bad Rhetts mom doesn't live closer lol the only thing I have failed to enjoy with her is a good buzz now my step mom on the other hand has almost everyting else I described minus a few but I enjoy shopping and having a drink (or several) with her for sure I guess this is why it is good to have a mix of friends so you can get the best of so many areas............. anyway I guess my search for the perfect friend mom of Rylan's friend continues.............